Let’s take a good look at commercial effect of television. The following paragraph is based on scientific research on media cultivation and gender relations by George Gerbner and Erwin Goffman.
Commercials and soap opera’s. Commercials portray an image of ideal situations for the average man. This is how a Man/Woman is supposed to be, that I want to be/have.
Those ideals are things people strive for. Compare it to “The American Dream”.
In commercials a woman is often displayed as sex-symbol, a seducer, submissive and a follower. A man is being portrayed as active, strong, social and with leadership capabilities.
Television series, soaps operas and sitcom are reality to the average consumer. A recognizable image sprung from reality.
In soaps it’s a trend to portray the following image; the man is weak and submissive, the woman is dominant knows everything better and is the strongest person in the household.
In the media reality and ideal are being presented as extreme opposites.
Because the media portray such a big gap between ideal and reality, it increases the strive for ideal in the average consumer.
This is where frustration comes into the frame.
The strive for the ideal is being increased by the extreme opposites of ideal and reality. Because of the portrayed distance between the two the ideal becomes unreachable which leads to frustration. (If only I was/had such a man/woman!)
This leads to the buying of advertised stuff that is supposed to counter these frustrations such as cosmetics, clothes and presents.
The role of commercials and soap operas thus creates the following situation:
Beautiful woman seem unreachable for the average man. And attractive men seem intangible. These frustrations lead to consumption for both men and woman.
Magazines are another good example of The Matrix at work.
Look at FHM or Playboy or Men’s Health. No word about how to REALLY interact with opposite sex. Like FHM you have those “blurbs”, loose pictures and phrases all over.
What do they do this way? Increase frustration by publishing pictures of very beautiful women. This makes men into dreamers instead of pro-active doers.
Men are lead to belief that sex is hard to get, beautiful women are not for them that in turn leads to them buying porn, visit prostitutes, etc. You get the idea.
All magazines publish ads full of beautiful women next to expensive cars, watches, jewelry. Men work their asses of, get promoted, buy sport cars, expensive watches, and come to the designated meeting place (club, bar) …AND STILL DO NOT GET LAID.
Then they decide that it was not the right car model or that may be a new house will improve his situation. He starts to beleive in "destiny" (another excuse for not being pro-active).
Oftentimes his wealth might attract to him a certain type of women known as “gold digger” that will later divorce him, take half of his money and leave him even more frustrated.
As a Worthy Playboy (thanks Johnny Soporno!) you know that IT DOES NOT MATTER.
LOOKS and MONEY JUST DO NOT MATTER. Period.
Your ability to successfully attract women is based on your ability to engage their emotions, have well-rounded, well developed personality and be able to unplug from the Matrix. That’s it.
Open Cosmo magazine and you will know exactly what I am talking about with regard to women. Smell like this – otherwise your Prince Charming will never notice you. Wear this bag/belt/dress – otherwise you will not FIT into what is considered to be beautiful from now on.
And you know in advance that next edition will just cancel this one and you will have to spend your money once again buying new outfit/ car/ jewelry/ whatever. You KNOW that it will happen but you JUST GO WITH A FLOW.Women magazines create another side of the gap also by giving women precise advice how to successfully seduce a man, make him jealous or keep him interested.
The man portrayed in those magazines is very competent in passing all those “tests”. All other men thus are “losers” and should be rejected.
If you are going out for while and interacting with women a lot you probably know that feeling that sometimes comes up: you just can see she was waiting for some response from you. Some special response or special reaction. She is brainwashed by all those magazines and thinks that the “real” man should approach her “only like this”. Any other way of interaction she discards and labels like “looser” because they were not described in her favorite magazine(s).
Thus she is doomed to search for a perfect prince for extremely long time. Meanwhile she keeps buying all that stuff which is being promoted in those magazines so to keep her ready for that "ONE&SPECIAL" meeting.
So what actually happens is this: huge gap separates men and women. In this gap things are being sold to them under false promises. Expectations created but possibilities to reach them are taken away.
Ideal seem to bee TOO perfect and unreachable in real life FOR BOTH SEXES.
Very few people see it. And even less take an effort to break out of it.
Most people live in FEAR and die very UNSATISFIED because they did not fit WELL ENOUGH into that “perfect” consumer model.
How does the Matrix influence male behavior? Do you know why you doubt or slow down before approaching an attractive woman?
Did you ever hear your own inner voice saying “that is not possible”, "that’s not aloud" or "how am I going to look like if I do X"? You might not even hear them – they became fast thought loops that you don’t even have to really think.
They just shoot through your brain as an electricity spark and paralyse your will.
Learn to recognize them slow down your thinking when you look at an attractive woman; write your thoughts down exactly. You will quickly find those parasites.
You know somehow that going out and meeting people should happen in specially designated places. Bars, clubs, etc. There are many variations but you somehow know exactly that if you see a nice girl in the supermarket you will not walk up to her and start chatting. Someone got this idea into your head. Think hard now: Who? When?
You will not remember. Social programming has many forms and most of them are invisible.
I mean, nobody ever told you: Hey, cannibalism is bad, don’t eat your mates, right?
But there are enough jokes, stories and hints around in our society to get this idea very strongly into child’s head.
Overcoming insanity of social programming becomes a number one priority in your life, in your Game and your personal development. Again, your intuition and your heart will be the best compass on this journey.
Keep going.
DJKC
(2 writings of Dutch Seduction lair were used during creation of this article)
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